#4 Important Things Never to Say When Someone Has Experienced Loss

4.     “She was in such bad health, she’s better off.” or “He’s in a better place.”  “Just think, you’ll see them again one day.”  Learn the reason these common comments cause some grievers to want to hit their welling-meaning family and friends.

Focusing on how better off the deceased person is doesn’t help the griever at all. 

Some thoughts that go through a griever’s mind are:

·       So, I guess I should be grateful the person died! Huh?

·       Doesn’t this person have a clue what I’m going through? 

·       The dead person might be in a better place but I’m not. 

·       Doesn’t anyone care what I’m going through?  Maybe I would be better off dead myself. 

Of course, the griever most likely will never say any of these remarks, but you can be certain many of those thoughts are bombarding the hearts and minds of most grievers. 

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Bobbie Rill, M.A.
Licensed Professional Counselor
National Trainer for The Grief Recovery Institute®
Grief Recovery Specialist

A well-loved speaker, counselor and Grief Recovery Specialist, Bobbie has been guiding individuals successfully for over 20 years.

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