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Mental Health Monday - Simple, Not Easy!

1/26/2015

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Time fitness is more than managing your task efficiently. A person can accomplish a great many tasks in a day’s time and still not manage their time wisely. Since there have been volumes upon volumes written on the subject by men and women, who have dedicated their lives to the study of time management, I wondered what I could possibly contribute in such a short space. Finally, I decided I would share the following illustration to give you a deeper perspective on the subject.

Time Fitness is as simple as a trip to the grocery store.

When comes to grocery shopping, there are two kinds of shoppers. There is the disorganized buyer and the systematic buyer. Of course, there are those that fit somewhere in between the two extremes, but I’ll only attempt to describe the two extremes.

The first one I’ll call Tommy Troubled.  Tommy goes into the kitchen, looks in the refrigerator and doesn’t see anything he like or wants to eat. Time for a trip to the local grocery store. So Tommy jumps into his car and dashes off to the store. Since he’s not sure exactly what he wants, he decides to walk down every aisle. With Tommy’s shopping method, whatever catches his eye and looks good, goes into the basket. 

When Tommy gets to the casher and unloads his cart, he is totally shocked at the price of his shopping spree. UGH.  He then loads everything into the car and heads for home.  On the way home, he thinks of one or two items he forgot, but it’s too late to go back since the frozen items will spoil sitting in the car.

Finally, Tommy arrives home and unloads his groceries. At last something to eat, and he pours himself a large bowl of Sugar Pops only to discover one of the item he most wanted to pick up was milk. Now he is thoroughly angry at himself for not getting the one item he promised to remember to get.  Such is the life of Troubled Tommy.

The next shopper is Johnny Sensible. Johnny planned a trip to the local grocery store Saturday morning. Friday Johnny sat down and planned his menu for the coming week.  Then from that menu, he made a grocery list of things that he would need. Next he when to his kitchen cabinet and the refrigerator to see what he already had on hand. Once he had crossed of the things that he already had, he went to bed and slept like a baby. 

Early Saturday morning Johnny headed out for the store. Johnny also walked down each of the aisles getting the items on his list (even giving in to a few items that he thought would make a special treat for himself). When he arrived at the cashier the only surprise he got were the items that had increased in price since he had last purchased them.

By and large Johnny lives his life under the same kind of strategy and most things go as smoothly as the trips he makes to the grocery store.

You will never stop the unexpected events from elbowing their way into your life, but it doesn’t have to be the way you live your life every day. Be honest with yourself and determine to work on changing the things that would make your life smother. Write down one item to work on and give your attention to it.

Disorganized thinking may be connected to unresolved grief, either recent or long ago. If you think that may be the case give me a call, and let me help you.  Bob Rill 520-237-4343


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    Bob Rill, B.S., Chaplain
    Grief Recovery Specialist

    As a Grief Recovery Specialist and Veteran, he delights in helping individuals move beyond the pain of loss.

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