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Mental Health Monday - Personal Responsibility

2/23/2015

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“We are called to be architects of the future, not its victims”
R. Buckminster Fuller

Personal Responsibility Fitness is the direct expression of one’s character.  It is a display of a person’s independence, integrity, capabilities, insights and judgment.  Like most personality traits it must be refined.  It includes a healthy dose of mental preparation, persistence, perseverance and opportunities.  The reason people struggle with it is because it takes a person out of their comfort zone and stretches the boundaries of life and mind.

To our detriment, we live in a society that has created an unhealthy dependence through a pseudo form of security that is robbing us individually of our independence, freedom and ultimately our responsibility.  We rock along thinking things are fine until perhaps like me, you sit down and write an article like this that forces you to examine your own life and intent.  We have allowed critical thinking and personal responsibility to take a back seat to complacency.

Too many of us have butts as big as a battle ship from sitting around, wasting time being entertained by TV, gaming or just sitting in front of the computer for hours.  Such complacency is killing the human spirit and steals the time and gray matter needed to rise to meet the important challenges we face today.  Those who choose to swallow hook, line and sinker the lies and the agenda of a few people with a vigorous voice speaking out is destroying us morally as well as mentally and physically.  As a result of the silent majority, agendas are being pushed on us with little resistance. 

Those of you who want to make a difference can do something about it!

You are here on earth with your unique talents and abilities for a purpose.  Part of that is to help others find their talents and abilities, especially young people who need to hear the truth and be encouraged to advance their own personal responsibility.  There is only One source of Truth!  If you are in doubt about that, you need to figure that out first. Wrong isn’t wrong because of the title someone gives it.  It’s wrong simply because it just doesn’t work and never will.  So, when you discover the truth and have things figured out for yourself, get up from the couch, turn off the TV and get busy.  You can begin to make a positive difference that will make a better country and a better world for your children and grandchildren. 

I started out with a quote from R. Buckminster Fuller and will end with another quote of his that I like and hope will encourage you to soar with those whom you love.

 “There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.”

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Mental Health Monday - Leadership

2/11/2015

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Responsibly Fitness - The Great Need for Leadership Today

There was a most important job that needed to be done,
And no reason not to do it, there was absolutely none.
But in vital matters such as this, the thing you have to ask
Is who exactly will it be who'll carry out the task?

Anybody could have told you that everybody knew
                                  That this was something somebody would surely have to do.
                                  Nobody was unwilling; anybody had the ability.
                                  But nobody believed that it was their responsibility.

                                   It seemed to be a job that anybody could have done,
                                   If anybody thought he was supposed to be the one.
                                   But since everybody recognized that anybody could,
                                   Everybody took for granted that somebody would.

                                   But nobody told anybody that we are aware of,
                                   That he would be in charge of seeing it was taken care of.
                                   And nobody took it on himself to follow through,
                                   And do what everybody thought that somebody would do.

                                   When what everybody needed so did not get done at all,
                                   Everybody was complaining that somebody dropped the ball.
                                   Anybody then could see it was an awful crying shame,
                                   And everybody looked around for somebody to blame.

                                   Somebody should have done the job
                                   And Everybody should have,
                                   But in the end Nobody did
                                   What Anybody could have.

                                     Charles Osgood


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Mental Health Monday - Responsibility Fitness

2/2/2015

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“The buck stops here.”  President Harry Truman

When I started this journey on being “Fit for Life,” the first submission was that of physical fitness.  And, while I don’t intend on visiting that again for a while it is a caveat for this article.   This month I wanted to address the topic of personal responsibility.  Personal responsibility is at the core of everything you hope will happen in your life.  While we cannot control all those things that happen to us, we are in control of our reaction to those events and circumstances.

When is old, old?  When does old become elderly?  This morning I walked into the grocery store to buy a bag of dog food.  I picked up a 50 lb. bag and threw it over my shoulder and walked to the checkout counter.  Several people gave me the look.  You know the one.  It’s the “Okay, show off!” look you get when you do something the other person wouldn’t or couldn’t do themselves.

While I’m the oldest person in the department at the college where I teach, I only confess to being 37 years old.  However, I’m often the butt of a lot of “old” jokes, some of which have been hurtful.  And, of course my 40 year old daughter wonders just how she happened to be born before I was.  I tell her that the stork brought her as a toddler and that we thought she was so beautiful and loved her so much that we decided to keep her.

So, what does all this have to do with personal responsibility?

Old is not a matter of age, it is a matter of individual responsibility.  It is not some arbitrary blanket benchmark someone decides it should be.  I am responsible for my health and well-being, and for maintaining the strength and sharpness that will serve me with a quality of life that I believe I can and should be living.  I don’t need or want anyone else to tell me my limitations.  The prevailing attitude I see all too often is reflected in a sign I saw recently from a homeless man, “Give me a job, or give me money.”  Ugh.

So, when do I think I’ll reach the age when I’m old?  I decided today that for me it will be the day I no longer am able to throw a 50 lb. bag of dog food over my shoulder and walk a half a block or so to my car parked in the parking lot.  Personal responsibility should be no harder than that – looking to yourself for the things that you want in life.  The Grief and Wellness Group can clear the way for you to discover that for yourself.


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    Bob Rill, B.S., Chaplain
    Grief Recovery Specialist

    As a Grief Recovery Specialist and Veteran, he delights in helping individuals move beyond the pain of loss.

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