A few years ago, I was puzzled as to what to get my wife for Christmas. Then I remembered she had been looking for a bench to fit under our bedroom window. I hit the jackpot and Bobbie was thrilled when she opened her gift. However, just a few weeks later she wanted a chair to complete the bedroom ensemble.
So, with the purchase of the chair, the bench was moved from under the window to the foot of the bed. You can see where this is going, can’t you?
Well, before I could adapt to the new location of the bench, one night I got up to go to the bathroom, and in the dark I kicked the bench !$%#&!!! hard enough to break my toe. The toe I broke was the little piggy that had roast beef.
In my attempt not to wake Bobbie, now with my blood curtailing scream she was wide awake. We sat there trying to decide whether to go to the emergency room, and finally decided that with my medical training in the army, I could splint the little piggy myself and save myself a night of torture waiting in the ER through the wee hours of the morning.
So, I taped the little piggy that had roast beef to the little piggy that stayed home. With me so far? I put ice on my foot, took two aspirin, and went back to bed.
Important side bar: You need to know that the toes on my right foot drift slightly to the right. So, when I taped the little piggy that ate roast beef to the little piggy that stayed home, it healed straighter than it was before.
What I should have done was tape the little piggy that had roast beef to the little piggy that had none for it to grow back into the original and correct position.
So, what is the moral of this story you ask? I’m glad you did! Had I gone to the ER, the real doctor may well have caught this important difference and the piggy with the roast beef would now have the correct alignment with all the other little piggies.
If the little piggy that had roast beef were in alignment with the other little piggies, I would not have the occasional pain I experience during some walking excursions. (It is especially bad on shopping trips with my wife, and I need to sit down more frequently than I otherwise might have to if, say I were hunting.) Seriously, I would not have the painful reminder of my mistake when I walk.
You may be experiencing a Broken Heart, or perhaps, a life you realize is not as happy as you would like it to be. I strongly encourage you not to try and fix it on your own. If you try to do the same thing with your Broken Heart, thinking time will heal all, you may in fact later live to regret your choice. At the very least, you will regret the time you lost waiting for things to get better when they don’t. You most certainly are not likely to get the results you really want.
So, get the results you really want the first time. Give us a call, and let one of our Grief Recovery Specialists walk you through the simple steps to recovery. We can explain the difference and you will certainly experience the difference in a full and happy life.
We have groups starting regularly, and there are always individual sessions that can be available to you.
Give me a call today at 520-668-5906.
Bob Rill, CGRS and Chaplain
The Grief & Wellness Group, Inc.
Bob has over 20 years of experience as an educator and administrator. As a Grief Recovery Specialist and a Veteran, he delights in helping individuals move beyond the pain of loss.