A powerful and popular segment of the game show, Truth or Consequences, was the surprise a contestant would receive near the end of many of the show’s episodes. The surprise was being reunited with a long-lost relative or their son or daughter returning home from military duty.
This segment had a tremendous emotional impact on the contestant, which was also felt by those witnessing the thrill of the relationships being reestablished.
It’s true that no matter how busy life is with obligations, making a living, taking care of chores, or trying to make time to go to the gym, when it comes right down to it, it’s relationships that really matter. Yet, relationships aren’t easy. They take time, effort and even when you think things are going great, the rug can be yanked right out from under you.
Take for example, the young man whose first love chooses his roommate over him, or the betrayal of a friend who didn’t respect your confidentiality, the person who suddenly stops contacting you and won’t share why, the friend who let you down when you needed them most or the person who believes an untrue rumor. Or there’s the parent who seems impossible to please. Your adult child refuses to allow you to see your grandchildren because they don’t like your religious or political views. The man you married for life finds another woman. The spouse you love dearly is diagnosed with cancer. The sibling that is strung out on drugs won’t take your advice to get help. The friend who moved away. The loved one who died.
Relationships are so enriching and meaningful, and at the same time can create a lot of pain with which one must learn to deal effectively. Oh, you can tell yourself you don’t care and sweep it under the rug. You can divorce your unfaithful spouse or find a replacement for the friend who let you down. You can distance yourself from your friend, sibling or the parent who keeps bugging you. You can lie and try to convince yourself that it doesn’t matter, but it does!
Unresolved issues in your relationships will affect you. You might find yourself replaying the hurtful event or snarly comment over and over in your head. You might find yourself more easily angered, sad or wanting to withdraw from people. Unresolved matters can disturb your ability to get a good night’s sleep, cause difficulty in maintaining your focus throughout your day and hinder your ability to trust or love again.
In Part 2 of this series, the article pointed out that the truth can set you free. While you may want the significant relationships in your life to last forever, the truth is, they don’t. You’re left with the consequences. You’re left with the pain that accompanies the loss.
As a professional counselor, it occurred to me years ago that most of the clients I saw were dealing with hurts and losses from past or current relationships. That, and the realization how I was seeking to help wasn’t as effective as I had hoped, sent me on a search to discover a better way, a better, healthy way to heal a broken heart.
The Rest of The Story
This process is available to you today! The Grief & Wellness Group is about helping those who want to move on with their lives and heal their broken hearts – no matter the cause.
If you’d like to take charge of the rest of your story, don’t hesitate.
Register for one of our groups today, schedule your individual sessions or, if you are unable to come to our office in Tucson, please contact me personally to arrange online services to walk you through the process for your individual well-being.
"And now you know the rest of the story."