How about you? Do you ever get so involved with your family, work, church and life in general that you put off taking care of yourself? You are so busy making sure your business is run properly. Or you’re giving your job the best you’ve got and there is STILL so much more to do. Your home needs repairs and updated, and there’s that termite inspection that needs scheduled. Your kids, or your grands, need your help with homework and they need you cheering them on at their volleyball games. And then there is the nutritious food you’re supposed to be giving them. Instead you opt for a fast food burger and fries in the car since it’s…well, faster. You promised yourself you’d exercise more in this new year, but you’ve already missed two weeks and it’s only February. The list of demands on our time could go on and on.
The best way to get time to take care of ourselves is to schedule it, and that means we’ll miss something else. It takes a little planning, and we may need to ask for help, but when we do, it is worth it to find out you really do need that antibiotic or your ear infection is only going to cause worse problems and the miserable way you’re feeling is just going to go on and on causing pain, and possibly more injury you’re not aware of.
Often times there is not a quick-fix medication for the pain we feel inside. The great sadness or whirling of complex thoughts and regrets you may have whenever a topic enters your mind, and spirals you downward, is a signal you need to schedule some time to breathe deeply and climb out.
We can experience grief from more than forty possible losses in our lives. Grief is not just about death. It involves those things we wish might be, or have been, different, better or more in any relationship. It can be about a current relationship. It can be unmet hopes and dreams that never came to be. Sometimes it is about getting something, on an emotional level, from someone who has never been able to give it to you. This could be due to death, or because that person didn’t since they couldn’t, or wouldn’t give you the support you needed. It can leave us feeling incomplete and wanting something more. This is grief!
Grief is a thief! Don’t let it rob you of your fulfillment and happiness today. Take…no, MAKE some time to take care of yourself this month. We are here to “hold your hand” as you walk through some simple, though emotional, steps to help you. Once completed, you’ll find more peace and fulfillment as you take care of the people in your life and your daily routines.
Make this the month you take some action steps to put on your own oxygen mask. And BREATHE!
Grief Recovery Specialist
The Grief & Wellness Group
Kim has walked through the separation from her birth family for seventeen years of her childhood and the loss of innocence that abuse brings. With her B.A in Communications and a huge heart for those who are hurting, Kim has a desire to help guide others to move beyond loss to grief recovery.