At 40-something years old, I had swallowed the lie—hook, line and sinker—that I should have recovered from the loss of my first family. Instead, I begin to wake from dreams in the middle of the night from the wounds from my childhood. A close family member’s divorce brought those buried memories to the forefront. In many ways, it ripped the Band-Aid® from the 40 years plus, still festering wound in my own heart.
My friend, Bobbie Rill, a licensed counselor, asked me to consider attending a grief recovery class that she was teaching. I found out that she was a certified grief recovery specialist. I was intrigued with the combination of two words--grief and recovery and decided I needed to experience the class.
Our society doesn’t like to look at the ugly things in life. We don’t want to watch people grieve. We don’t want to see their pain or experience our own. We’re conditioned to “get over it,” and for the most part, we are expected to do so without the tools and support necessary to heal. So we pretend—only to find the pain is still there, causing all kinds of chaos in our relationships and wreaking havoc with our emotions.
I am a very transparent person and have often shared my journey with others with hope that together we can navigate the difficult things in life. It has been my experience that giving something more time will not heal the pain. It’s time to face the truth is and admit it—time doesn’t heal the pain. For me, it was time to stop the deception and experience real recovery.
I truly believe that if I had been given the tools to grieve my parents’ divorce—as well as all the other losses I experienced as a child—my life would have been better, different and more because I could have let go of the pain that held me captive so many years.
I encourage you today to take the steps necessary to complete the relationship causing you so much pain. Get the tools to navigate the losses in your life and say goodbye to the pain. Call us first at 520-668-5906.
Grief Recovery Specialist
Shanna is an author, writer, editor and project manager who has served various organizations for more than 20 years. She has written, developed and contributed to more than 60 books. As a child of divorce, she has a passion to see parents equipped to help their children successfully navigate grief and loss in hopes that they can live free from the pain unresolved grief can cause. Shanna has a B.A. in Communications. She and her husband reside in Indianapolis, IN.