I have several packages of ground elk in my freezer. During the Christmas holidays, I took a package out to grill as a special treat for our guests. This particular package was enough to make six patties. Two of us couldn’t wait for the meat to get off the grill and invade our taste buds. We knew it was going to be a great treat. There were two others who said, “I’ll try a burger.” There were three others who bowed out gracefully by saying, “No thanks,” which left two patties that went back into the refrigerator to be grilled later.
My grandson and I scarfed the burgers down and wished I had already grilled the other two patties. The other two participants finished their burgers with a "ho-hum" and admitted the taste was good. Even after all the positive comments on the burgers, the others at the table wouldn’t even consider eating the wild game meat.
When a person says, “I’LL TRY,” their memory searches for a similar experience to compare with what is being offered and mentally says, “Hmmm. What do I know about eating wild game meat?” If they have had a skillfully prepared meal with game meat before, it will probably be met with an enthusiastic response. But, if they have not had a good experience or no experience at all with this type of food, they will likely think, “I don’t know exactly how this is going to taste,” and reject a delicious meal.
Grief recovery is somewhat like being offered an elk burger. You search your memory and if everything you’ve tried has ended in failure, it’s easy to automatically conclude this won’t work either. Another person might say, “I’LL TRY,” wondering if it could lead to a successful result, but the uncertainty hinders the person from putting forth the necessary energy for the desired results.
I’m not going to ask you to TRY anything. Trying is baloney. Trying is a response when we don’t know the outcome. Trying is full of hesitation and apprehension. The grief recovery process we offer is an evidence-based program. YOU WILL GET RESULTS, PERIOD. It will not change the circumstances but it will change you so you can look forward to a brighter future.
We offer both individual and group programs. Two new groups will be starting on January 29 and April 8th. Why not start the year off with the plan of making this the best year ever? You can make it happen for yourself and perhaps someone you care about. This is a great way to start.
Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
Bob has over 20 years of experience as an educator and administrator. As a Grief Recovery Specialist and a Veteran, he delights in helping individuals move beyond the pain of loss.