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An Extreme Adventure

6/23/2019

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Our grandson, Skyler, turned 16 in April.  I wanted to do something special for him, something like what we planned on his 13th birthday since both ages are rather significant milestones in a young person’s life.  On his 13th we surprised him by taking him to SkyVenture Arizona, which is an indoor skydiving facility that uses a state-of-the-art skydiving wind tunnel.

Not only was he surprised when we arrived at the destination, he was even more surprised when a car full of some of his friends arrived.  They had a blast!  There’s something special about facing a new experience that’s somewhat scary with friends who are willing to do it with you.

Now at 16, I wanted to step it up a little.  I knew exactly what I wanted to do.  After running it by Bob and Sky’s parents, who agreed he would love the challenge, we solidified the plans and reservations were made.  When the day arrived, we all headed north to Flagstaff for the weekend and the Extreme Adventure course located in the Fort Tuthill County Park. 

The extreme adventure consists of five different courses which progressively are more challenging based on the level of difficulty and of course, elevation.  It has approximately 17 different obstacles including several different zip lines that take participants from one tree to another where they face their next challenge – anything from navigating a wobbly bridge, hanging nets, swinging planks to cross, and other “suspended” challenges.

I was intrigued with what happened after we all arrived and the guys had their gear properly fitted and secured before they sat down to go through the mandatory 30-minute training.  Sky gathered his friends, formed a circle and challenged them to make a pack that each of them would finish all five courses, including the black course, which was at the highest elevation and most difficult, testing their upper body strength to the limits.  I watched one of the instructors nod his head, as if to say, “They’ll never make it.”  One of Sky’s friends admitted he was afraid of heights but none the less, all four joined their hands in the middle of the circle with a shake to seal the deal.    

Because the facility is in the county park, those of us less adventurous were able to walk the course cheering them on.  I watched as Sky and his friends confronted each task, facing any self-doubt, apprehension and fear of heights. 

How do you handle the obstacles in your life?  Challenges you didn’t expect?  The hard tasks that involve doubt, apprehension or fear?  The pain associated with a betrayal, divorce, or loss of a loved one? 

You don’t have to do it alone!  Find friends who will cheer you on and those willing to go through it with you.  There’s something about facing tough times and going through challenges with friends who are also willing to face their apprehensions.  Make a pack to finish the course together, spurring each other on each step along the way. 


Sky and his friends finished each task with which they were confronted that day.   I quickly glanced around to see if perhaps the doubting instructor had witnessed the feat.  He was nowhere to be found, but it didn’t really matter.  The smile on Sky’s face said it all.  I couldn’t help but wonder if perhaps they all had surpassed their expectations that day.
 
Are you willing to face your apprehensions and fears in order to complete what you’re facing right now?  Enroll in one of our courses and invite a friend to do it with you so you can walk through it together.  We’ll be there to cheer you on each step of the way and you just might be surprised at the peace of mind that will surpass your expectations. 

I look forward to hearing from you and walking your journey with you.



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Bobbie Rill, M.A., LPC
Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist/Natl. Trainer
A well-loved speaker and counselor, Bobbie has been guiding individuals successfully for over 25 years.

The Grief and Wellness Group, Inc.
www.GriefTheThief.com

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Come Out of Your Tent!

6/3/2019

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It was our summer vacation, and I couldn’t wait to get up the mountain to our campground! As a young girl, I loved our one to two week camping trips on Mogollon Rim each year, but as I’d gotten into my teens, I’d become full of the pines, camp fires, fishing, playing Hearts and relaxing with a good book only after a few days. But this trip was going to be different. My cousins were coming! AND the oldest one had his license! This was going to be fun!  Well, for the most part.

One afternoon my cousins and I were given the task of driving to the closest market to pick up some milk. We hopped in with 17-year-old Tim at the helm of his dad’s car, and merrily headed around the Canyon Point Campground loop and out onto the highway. With the windows down and the wind blowing through my hair, I felt happy and free.

On our way back from the market, we were all laughing and joking and I found my young self saying, ‘Just pull over and I’ll get out and walk! HaHa!’ Tim thought it would be funny to do it, so he pulled off the highway and told me to get out, and he drove off. I knew he’d have to turn around and come back for me, but at that moment my teenage mind had the “BEST” idea yet, and I decided I’d cross the highway and run through the woods back to our campground just to trick him.  So, as Tim turned around and proceeded to drive up and down the highway looking for me, I ran laughing through the woods just out of sight.

When I arrived back at camp, I found out Tim and crew had returned to look for me and then headed back to comb the highway. His dad wasn’t happy with him and mine wasn’t at all happy with me. When they finally returned with relief-mixed-with-frustration looks on their faces, I thought it was great UNTIL my dad yelled at me, embarrassing me in front of everyone. I did what every “mature” young teen would do; I ran to my tent, and cried and pouted.

After being in there for what seemed like forever, my Marine cousin, Jim, the father of the others, came in to talk to me. “Kim,” he said, “Are you going to stay in here and let this ruin your whole day?” He beckoned me to come out and enjoy dinner and the upcoming camp fire. After a few minutes of thought, I knew I’d much rather be with these fun people than mope alone, so I dragged myself back to the center of camp, apologized and enjoyed a wonderful evening with my family. Tim and I would later chuckle about our silliness.  

I’m sure I had cousin Jim’s words in the back of my mind, as usual, when I joined my first Grief Recovery Group with Bobbie Rill, and completed the process of the Grief Recovery Method. I decided I wasn’t going to let the dark cloud of loss and discouragement due to others’ actions and my responses to hover over me the rest of my life. And I’m so glad I made that decision.  I’m thankful for the action steps that have allowed me to freely and confidently forgive, trust and fully love.  I’m thankful for the lessons I learned about taking responsibility for what is mine and letting go of what isn’t.  I have since used this effective method with many losses in my life.

This summer, I hope you’re not letting a dark cloud hang over your plans and “ruin your day.” Come out of your tent, take some action steps and get complete with any loss with the Grief Recovery Method. We’d love to walk with you through the process.


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Kim Worcester
Grief Recovery Specialist
The Grief & Wellness Group
kim.worcester@gmail.com

Kim has walked through the separation from her birth family for seventeen years of her childhood and the loss of innocence that abuse brings. With her B.A. in Communications and a huge heart for those who are hurting, Kim has a desire to help guide others to move beyond loss to grief recovery.


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